So You’re Really the Best Man? Then Here are Your Duties

Planning the bachelor party is just the beginning. The best man should do all he can to take weight off of the groom’s shoulders, such as handling any (or all) of these tasks.


During the Wedding Planning

  1. Help the groom choose tuxes.
  2. Organize groomsmen’s fittings.

    Keep everything on schedule.

  3. Plan and give the bachelor party.

    Keep track of who’s invited, who’s coming, where everyone will stay, and what activities will take place. Stay on top of the costs, making sure each attendee pays his share.

  4. Help arrange wedding accommodations for out-of-town groomsmen.
  5. Organize a groomsmen’s gift for the groom.

    This can be presented at the bachelor party.

  6. Keep groomsmen apprised of any changes in scheduling.

Shortly Before the Wedding Day

  1. Organize the couple’s departure from the reception.

    If they or you will drive, consider decorating the getaway car (tastefully); otherwise, arrange and confirm a limo or other transportation.

  2. Confirm honeymoon travel reservations, if the groom wishes.

At the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner

  1. Attend the rehearsal.

    And pay attention—you may need to help others remember their places and schedules later.

  2. Organize who will be giving toasts at dinner.

    Set the order.

  3. Give the second toast, after the father of the groom (if the groom’s parents have paid for the dinner).

    Or, if he is not speaking, give the first toast.

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